Perfect Timing? When To File For Divorce

There never is a perfect time to file for divorce…

When a marriage is headed for divorce, a question of timing usually plays a big part in when a spouse makes the actual decision to file for divorce. Divorce is a big deal. It’s usually hard to talk about divorce with your spouse, whether you are still together or separated. Divorce is permanently ending your marriage. It’s the end of a chapter of your life. No matter how long you’ve been married, it is going to be difficult.

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…but there are better times than others.

Timing Considerations When You File for Divorce

Important Timing Related Issues in Divorce

RETIREMENT

CHILDREN

Staying Together for the Children? Do you really want your children to be exposed to negativity throughout their childhood if you are staying together for them? Children tend to be happier when their parents are happy. If the parents’ divorce when the children are younger but move on to become happy separately then the children have the best of both worlds. Divorcing when you want to and when you need to is much better than your children being exposed to trauma growing up or having to go through it as an adult.

Once again, there is never a perfect time to file for divorce but if you have children, think about them and the impact on them.

  • Stick it out a few more years but have them exposed to two people who clearly do not want to be together?
  • Stick it out a few more years and pretend like everything is fine leaving them in utter shock when the time does come?

Your marriage is yours. It is between you and your spouse. Your children do not need to know and should not know the reasons behind the divorce. They aren’t your therapists. The best way to handle a divorce when you have children is to be straightforward with your spouse and to try your hardest to both be on the same page about how to handle the divorce as it relates to your children, whatever their age may be. You will always be their parents whether you are together or not.

MAINTENANCE AND SPOUSAL SUPPORT

  • less than 5 years (.20);
  • 5 years or more but less than 6 years (.24);
  • 6 years or more but less than 7 years (.28);
  • 7 years or more but less than 8 years (.32);
  • 8 years or more but less than 9 years (.36);
  • 9 years or more but less than 10 years (.40);
  • 10 years or more but less than 11 years (.44);
  • 11 years or more but less than 12 years (.48);
  • 12 years or more but less than 13 years (.52);
  • 13 years or more but less than 14 years (.56);
  • 14 years or more but less than 15 years (.60);
  • 15 years or more but less than 16 years (.64);
  • 16 years or more but less than 17 years (.68);
  • 17 years or more but less than 18 years (.72);
  • 18 years or more but less than 19 years (.76);
  • 19 years or more but less than 20 years (.80).
  • 20 or more years: the court, in its discretion, shall order maintenance for a period equal to the length of the marriage or for an indefinite term.

So when is the perfect time to file for divorce?

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