HELP! I’m a Stay-at-Home Mom and Getting Divorced

If you have been married for several years and spent your married life as a stay-at-home mom taking care of your family and realize you are facing a divorce, there is no reason to panic. Your efforts of caring for your home and family will not be ignored by the Court and is not discouraged by the laws in Illinois. Every case, of course, is fact-specific and the outcome of your case will be dependent on the facts in your specific marriage. As an example, a stay-at-home mom who has a Ph.D. and previous work history may likely have a different divorce outcome than a stay-at-home mom who has no advanced degree and no job experience. The length of your marriage is also important, as in the previous example a stay-at-home mom who has been home for the past two years is likely to turn out differently than a stay-at-home mom who has been home for ten years.

5 Tips for a Stay-at-Home Mom Facing Divorce

Divorce Tip #1: Start gathering documents.

  • Your personal tax returns (at least the last three years)
  • Paystubs if your spouse is a W-2 wage earner
  • If you and/or your spouse own a business you will need the business tax returns and other income statements relating to the business
  • Bank Statements
  • Retirement and Investment Accounts
  • Mortgage and any other loan documents
  • Credit Cards Accounts (information and recent statements)

Divorce Tip #2: Prepare a budget.

Divorce Tip #3: Understand and know your credit score.

Divorce Tip #4: Decide how you would like things to look after the divorce and work with a qualified attorney to create a plan to get you there.

Divorce Tip #5: Think about returning to work and what that may look like.


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