7 Mistake To Avoid If You Are Planning to Divorce in Illinois

When it comes to planning to divorce in Illinois, many people ask what they should do to prepare for divorce, and those lists are a dime a dozen. In my experience as a Chicago divorce attorney, it is far more common for people to make mistakes and do things they should not have done, which can be very difficult to later rectify.

Here are the Top 7 Things You Should NOT Do If You are Planning to Divorce in Illinois:

1. Do not leave items accessible to your soon-to-be ex unless they are replaceable.

Do not sell them or if it is found they were marital, you may end up owing your soon to be spouse for half the value.

2. Do not tell your soon to be ex that you do not want to pay child support.

3. Do not stop paying the bills you are responsible for.

4. Do not spent a bunch of money “revenge shopping”.

Do not try to “hide” your assets.

Do not try to turn your children against the other parent or their family.

Anytime a parent bad mouths the other parent or their family to their children, it almost always backfires against them. The children will end up angry at you in the end, even if your spouse cause the divorce or did you wrong, because they will likely protect their other parent (and they’d likely do the same if the other parent bad mouthed you). The divorce is between the parents, not between the children and the parents, and everyone should act accordingly, to maintain what is in the children’s best interests. You should do this as a good parent anyway, however, if that is not enough motivation, know that Judges and Guardian Ad Litems despise this sort of behavior. More importantly, if the court finds that bad mouthing arises to the level of parental alienation, you could face your children moving in with your spouse.

Do not act as if you won’t have to see your soon to be ex ever again, especially if you have children.

People think they can be nasty to one another during divorce proceedings because the other person is out of their life. If they have children, they couldn’t be more wrong. They will have joint recitals, graduations, holidays once the children are older and host their families, grandchildren, grandchildren’s events, and more. Once you have children with someone the odds that you will see them at milestone events and special occasions are great and life-long. Don’t do anything to make it even more uncomfortable than it already will be. It is highly doubtful your children will have patience for you and your ex not getting along when they are adults and start having their own children and want to share holidays, and the like. Believe me, you will end up missing out if you cannot behave properly. Best to start this one early on.

If you are contemplating divorce or think your spouse is, it is important to make smart decisions and seek advice from experienced divorce attorneys. Contact our office today to schedule a confidential consultation about your family law matter or taking the right steps planning for divorce.

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